When Love Unknowingly Turns You Into Backup

Some stories are told from the deeper understanding the person one is. It might take century just one to give the story they have faced in this life. At one instance I gave out my story but it took long time before some can ask or select me to shade more light on my story. It mighty be very difficult for one to tell the story since one selecting this its very difficult and one might have experience if you haven’t experience then it remains a fake story.

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My full story begins with a smooth touch in the year 2018 when one person chose my picture and late on made it his profile picture as she may have thought.  On the process he sent a message inbox to show how much he was interested in me and we probably need to talk. This time I had made several friends, I was lucky this time when I received one call from a friend of mine to inform me that, “I have a friend by the name James, who want your number, will I give it to him?”

I had to respond to it politely. For those who knew me before they can describe me a friendly and polite as always.  He contacted me we talked much.  This time he went ahead and introduced himself to me and the interest toward me.  I did my due diligent and I did not turn him down that time. We talked for days and later informed me that he will be travelling to another country for games that was football. We kept our love hotter in the long distance later it turned cooled because it was not possible and he disappear into the forest.

After trying to reach him, he decided to ignore my call or messages and even my missed calls. I took time to try and understand why would this man move very fast, in my research I got that he was seeing another woman there on that country. He we so much wiling to leave me and be comminated to that woman. I opted as the best thing for me to do now was to let things flow the way they want I abandon it too.

After two years 2020, the man was so much sick and he decided the best destination was Kenya. He can to apologize and I made the worst decision after accepting it that hurts even today.

Within some months we started dating again and kept repeating the same mistake that he was doing at the past. He was blaming me for several things, when things do not make sense asking hiem he responses nothing but from the looks can tell you that he blames me. I made it a vow to visit him daily to keep tracks on his behavior and his mother was one of the best women who enjoyed may company with her. After every visit she could come to me and have a long conversation for hours and this was the best memories for me to remember.

Mum passed away in the year 2019. This time James had gone to a serious trip again and on the same note, this time I had experience a hard time which is a miscarriage. The worst thing he did was that he did not come nor contact me at any time. I was so much in anger and I mentioned it before he came. From the look of the things, I would tell that he was not with it at all the time. He used to give me assurance about his love for me but truly I can not tell if this was the case.

After the passing on of my mother that year I was really disturbed so much trying to look for a direction and pain, I decided to look at my phone while chilling. On the friends WhatsApp statues at my shock, I saw a weeding picture of a boyfriend that we dated.  James had decided to tie a knot of life with that girl on the other country he visited in.

The past days, months and even years has been mine but now he is gone. I have wasted all these years? I was so much crushed by what is saw and I decided to confront him to get the hidden intent while I was in furry. I picked my phone and wrote the following message, “Congratulations bridal in your wedding. I know may the good Lord bless you.”

Within a short period, he sent along message that sounded a justification and not apology, I was so furry in decided not to answer it.

This is not the story that I am coining. One of his close associate friends informed me that James has been so much clever on how he deals with ladies and other partners he has. He was so much relying on me while he was away from his really partner or wife. Imagine that was the last drop of disrespect that I took.

I can tell you, even his mother went against me.  I got the first-hand information that his mother nowadays he does not know me rather she recognizes the other woman who had a child with him.

I want to give the precise the life experience that I have endured in 2023 and 204 probably even this year 2025. I got the information that the woman he married was rich. I was that time unemployed nurse and she went in within employed person who had some money. Years are moving very first since I am 35 and later, I will be 36 and I mighty not get pregnant at all.

I am writing this while crying and holding my pe tightly to reflect what has happened.  Through this I have decided to trust in God for intervention and the renewal of my lost year in infidelity. I decided not to hold a clutch against anybody or bitterness, a have forgiven him and myself too for all these things. I have also gone to extent to forgive him.

What still challenges me, where should I lean on?

—Enam

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