The Worse Accusation That Shook My Marriage

We live in a world that is full of help when it is offered in the right way. In several occasions my boss is that kind of person who could help you in all the seasons of life. He used to offer a lift to me when going home when things are worse or even late from work. In the society that we stay in , they got a way to interpret that action mostly if you are the woman and he is a man. I recall one time ,we had very busy and exhausting day at work so that we can meet and beat the deadlines set for that day. My Boss with a generous heart and willingness he decided to give me a ride home to avoid getting late. When we reached the gate of the in-laws my father in law was sitting near by.  He saw me dropped by my boss from his car, I was not bothered about it and I greeted him quickly as entered the toward the house.

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The following day there were calls from my husband wanted to know who dropped me the previous night on our home since it was late. His father who saw me yesterday called son and infused accusation on me that I was not at home. This was the worse of the accusation that hurts most.

From the bottom of my heart, he would have aske me first to clear the air rather accusing me for infidelity. This give a room for bad attitude that is possessed by my father-in-law.  I wish he knows how hard we work to provide for our families and how busy the roods are coming home from work. In some instances, you try bus home its hard, uber might be then the best option in that time.  You remember the cost of uber and opt for bus. In another occasion I greeted him when I entered late while running but the reply was silly and very unfriendly.

The following day he meant ignorance finally he did that to me just ignoring me completely as his son’s wife.  I received several calls from my husband, to validate the frustration that his father had for me. He called to give and explain the assumptions and the theories explain to him by his father.

When I recall this misunderstanding in makes me feel drained.  The challenge is that how to convince him to tell his father not to think on those negative thoughts he had for me rather he should also ask my hardship before and judgment.

I was moved to the nearby apartment by my husband without my consent, probably its is because of the tension that was there between me and the father-in-law.

In the past we had plans to build our house but in last nine months I have been living with his parents because we opted to cut the expenses and maximize the saving.  My husband was to cans help me in arrangement of building and then leave for his work abroad.

He came back we got on with the plan’s ton build the house so that things might be easy for us. We spent short time together when he came back and finished our house and he returned to his work. I might be pregnant because for the last three weeks since he left, I got those feelings. I wanted to break this news to him but I thought let me wait for him again before telling him this.

I was pressed and I decided to let him know the result after a pregnancy test. He was so happy and his reaction was dope and we had hopes to be the next parents.

In about nine moths our baby was born looking very adorable and cute.  We had discussed earlier about the child naming therefore the responsibility was on my husband hands. He named the baby according to the custom after his father’s same name. This was not at all my surprise because I knew the responsibly of parenthood stands at the head and hands of a husband. One night he gave me a call and we talked so much and he hanged the call. When I was jus chilling, I saw a pop-up message from him reads, “I think we must do DNA test for clarity.”

The message made me shocked. Why could someone who love such much bring this kind of nonsense? I was left with so my much thought about that message. I garnered courage and asked but his simple answer did not quench my thirsts, “My father wanted to be sure about his grandson.”  This time my heart got bruised and crushed, other they mighty opt to say it’s a torture of the mind. My mind was at odds at all times with my feeling even after trying to keep myself away from such arguments. He had suggested that I must do the test willing this was to cater for elimination of mistrust based on the result. But I was so much reluctant to do the test rather they should lead me in doing sine they are the one that need to know the result. My answer was simple, “You should lead me and your father I will ask in the process of the test.

His relative did not even imagine coming over top as an greet us, even his father dropped the bid to come since this saga happened.  His mother whom used again and again to visit us probably changed his mind giving excuses for his father’s action. Personally, I knew so much happened that was troublesome. Grandson at seven months now and grandfather they remained to be stranger.

My husband so the things acute he decided to come home and solve the issues. We booked appointment to get DNA test the following day.  That day his father was at toes to come along with us, it was a great surprise for me.

 No sooner they result were here, I was already in good terms within myself, no surprise. Because I was true and convicted that the child belonged to my husband. My husband was so, happy that he couldn't help but say, “He was mine I already knew I.” My father-in-law, however, was silent and lost in his thoughts.

It’s a punishment taking someone in a laborious process mainly just to confirm the parent of the child yet its inconvincible. After the whole commotions, my husband opted to support me and his father friend and was more now composed.

I have undergone through pain that was nearly tore me down. I informed him, “As a man you should take first step to apologize but it did not arrive, if You think our relationship is important then thinks about your family first.” Just in a few days later, I had a call from my mother to visit us but id declined it immediately.  My parents supported me with advice and encouragement for me to be strong and prayerful.

This has impacted me so much. I have travelled far in my mind I remain inn wait and see circumstance if things will change. I believe if the father-in-law bends down and make a trues apology for his accusation that was unjust then will be willing to take him again as a father meanwhile I do not. But until that time, I have opted to be very firm in all my interaction because if I am willing to recover from this accusation them love must be held firmly with high standards and respect

- Janet

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