Lesson Learned From The Fruit Of Love

In life we face so much. We endure many things. I met Lilian when I was feeling unfinished. I had been going through a lot in life. Life was crumbling but I was managing.  This time I saw her as a light that would brighten my life like nobody before. It was a dream come true for me.  I used to be in the dark on her arrival. I am out of the total darkness. This time emotions connected and they pulled toward her. She was beautiful as many can describe her. I was unable even to see or foreshadow any danger loving her. In this life , love will not come so easily one has to fight for it, that was definitely my task. 

We were entangled together for the same period of time. Our connection was real and indescribable. We loved how we did our things as friends. In the time we shared together carried so much. There was so much emotion in our contact, one can tell all this from her smile, my heart , eye contact and the silence shared. This time , my heart was in a bounder of questions where she loved me the same way I did. 

My heart tried to endure all the cost of loving. I was in a total struggle with the desire that was raised by fear of losing her. I tried to navigate through the map of love without the compass. This time I adopted her routine and other interests. One time I had to make changes to my routine , priorities to suit hers. In my mind I was really heartbroken, but because I was willing to sacrifice anything for love then I did.  This conflict in my mind grew so much that I started to question how I can do all this for her and I do not follow my heart wishes and protect myself from those desires?

After several months of engagement and courtship.  I decided now to propose to her and make her the wife  of my children. This time before the proposal she started to keep some distance from me and I did not take this as a red flag. Later she revealed the truth that shakes me. This was a nice woman that I knew whom I thought things were going to work out for us.  Things started to shift when he called for immediate dialogue to iron the issue out. One was able to tell the broken bridge between us. Indeed this was the time that doubt came to exist in my mind. From this I was able to comprehend that love is not emotion but a choice one makes. 

Time went on without us not talking as we used to do. This time I was in self reflection, then I realized that my flaws like fear, pride and even silence were really going to cost my relationship.  I took the self confrontation but not just her. This was the time that I asked myself tough questions that expats need to answer. This was the unfinished letter that hurt me so much. I cooled down and took the emotional responsibility instead of blasting fate on her. This time she cooled down and tried to listen to me. 

As a man, I tried to choose honesty and vulnerability to secure my relationship. It was time for a reconnection again. We talked about the kind of life we need to have in marriage and how we could get there.  Everyone changed their perspective and we got connected again. This time it was a time for rebuilding the old destroyed bridges and mending the dawn after we endured the long night. I realized that hope was the cornerstone of every relationship and working. 

From the above experience I can tell that love is a tough journey that needs dedication and remember that it is not a destination. I have learned the lesson that I will live to tell.  Whether we are together in this love or apart then love must reshape you in whichever way it will. This love is a map that can be understood after experience., where the hearts are open if they might be scared. 

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