Time To Reflect Before Chasing Women

One of my partners turned down my proposal. As she elaborated on her decision, she stated that I just wasn't her type. I was offended but very grateful for her straightforwardness. Right after that, I made a decision not to have any more regrets in the future by going after women that have the same interests as I do. I want a trustworthy partner, not a rich one and not a financially struggling one either, who has a very good sense of responsibility.

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I am not very concerned with the looks. A financially stable partner is more of an attraction for me. A woman has been through a hard time and this hard time has taught me a lesson; that lesson has saved me a lot of money which I would have used for taking women out on dates.

The moment before the rejection, I would go to any lady, irrespective of her being my type or not, just to meet my isolation. Quite a few of those relationships were with ladies who were emotionally unavailable – I usually ended up being the one who paid. But, eventually, I figured out that not every woman, who was friendly towards me, was really interested; some were just trying to benefit at my cost. That thing happened when I was no longer playing by their rules.

At this point, I am not trying to find any woman to meet my emotional needs, but rather I am looking for a woman with the qualities I want. Such women are rare because they have their own demands and are picky, which I respect. This is the reason I have been single for two years, but during this period I have saved some money and also improved my financial condition. Moreover, I have learned to be patient and that is the quality that will make me a better partner when the right woman comes along.

The thing I often say to my buddies is "Don't go after girls just to satisfy your emotional needs." Be frank with yourself: Is the girl you are dating right now really your type, or did you pick her just because she was the easiest to get?

The reply to that question commonly discloses the reason why a lot of men are in a difficult situation. Quite a few of us select women who we wouldn't have chosen if only our real preferences were to be considered. We take these women but are still dreaming about our ideal ones. If this is the case with you, then you are losing your time and money on relationships that do not make you happy.

- Alex

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