The Principles To Embrace When In Love

I am in my mid-twenties now, and Janet is still twenty-three. We have been a couple for a year and a half. I briefly dated a few times in the past that involved varying levels of relationships, but none of them were significant. My bond with Janet is like a first love to me. On the other hand, Janet has suffered two failed loves but this has given her more experience in the love zone.

To tell the truth, she is the ideal partner for me. Janet is charming and honest, but she is also very kind, emotionally mature, and funny. Her peaceful demeanor and soothing presence help me cope with life's challenges. Hugging her feels like being on top of the world, and nothing can bring me down.

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What really fascinates me is the way she makes me feel so safe. She welcomes me with open arms and unconditionally, together with my defects. No matter what I am going through, she is right there, giving me her mental, spiritual, and physical support that is unchanging.

There are times when I feel like staying alone is the best option for me. During those periods, she gives me my space and time, respecting the need without taking it as a personal rejection or making it about her.

I also value her perspective on my spending and my time. She never acts as if she has a right to either; on the contrary, she frequently amazes me with her thoughtful presents made from her own earnings. I truly appreciate how she is so good at keeping our love alive.

I try as much as possible to give it back to her. Even on the most hectic workdays, I make it a habit to contact her. I always shower her with compliments; she is very much aware of her position in my life.

We consider it essential to meet at least once a week. I reckon, during that time she feels like I am fully supporting her, thus every moment is important. We go for dinners, have long chats, laugh and bond effortless.

Up to now, there have not been any major clashes between us, only little quarrels which we deal with through talk and comprehension. In several ways, we appear to be the perfect couple the sort that makes friends envy and wish to be like.

However, in the midst of this pleasure, I am still aloof and contemplating our future. She is my love, I adore every moment spent together, and yet the question just won’t go away: "Are we really connected, or it’s just a matter of ephemeral affection or lust?"

This inner conflict is really tough on me. I have always struggled to let others see my true feelings. Even with my closest ones, I usually keep it in, not because I want to but because I find it hard to express myself.

I try to love people through actions, but then I always ask myself if that would be sufficient for them.

Currently, I am in a situation where I ask myself whether my command towards Janet is a true feeling or merely a performance of sorts that I think I have to put on.

I am aware of these thoughts' burden. Janet is a person that should have only the best. I just want to make sure that I am not pulling a fast one on her or myself.

Is it common to doubt your feelings when you’re in love? I have never been with anyone to that extent, so I’m left wondering if my doubts are just part of the journey.

Everything seems fabulous, still a feeling of discomfort hangs around. I am reluctant to share with her my feelings, thinking that it might be a blow to her. I also find it hard to let her suffer in the dark while I am trying to figure out my emotions.

I understand that if I release her now, she will surely meet a man who is secure in his desires and appreciates her. A woman like her won't be single for a long time, and that is the reason I am holding back from making a hasty move.

My emotions are in a real struggle. Heartbreak is something I don't want to inflict on her, and yet I don't want to keep to myself and suffer the weight of my uncertainties. I would be very grateful for any help.

- Ricky

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