Scared to Reveal My Actual Age to Him

At 33 years of age, I feel like I am at a point in life where I am ready to start a family. I often talk to God about my future husband, asking Him to give me a good partner someone who will give me true love and also accept the sweetness I have to give. When looking at it from this perspective, it might not seem like much but, in fact, it was like I was trying to find the impossible until recently when my situation changed.

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I commenced a job in a new place, and at the same time, I moved to another region. Just as I was getting used to my new environment, I bumped into Selorm, the guy who lives in my vicinity. He is really cool, and I developed a bond with him instantly. We were like two peas in a pod without any effort, just like old pals, although up till now, we have known each other only for two months.

We have had lots of chats and shared time together during this period. He is fantastic company, and I like the way he helps me to feel less isolated.

What’s more, he has now started to like me. To be honest, he is almost the perfect answer to my prayers his character, the care he gives me, the communication, and the love he shows. Everything feels perfect, and I am also in love with him.

He pictures a future together and has even told me, “If things go well, I want to marry you within a year.” Till now, I have not accepted his offer because of one thing: his age.

He is only 28, and he thinks that my being two years older than him is not a problem. But the truth is that I am actually five years older than he is. Although a lot of people claim that I do not look older than 27, I am 33 for real.

One time, I just threw a question to him about the possibility of him dating a girl five years older. He answered, “No, that’s too wide a gap. I could manage two or three years at most.”

The response from him really affected me deeply for it sounded like if I told him my real age he would not want to date me anymore. I do care about this man a lot and don’t want to lose him that is the reason why I haven’t told him my age.

Should I remain silent, live the relationship as it is, and pray to eventually find an older man who will be accepting of my age? Or should I just tell him the truth and move on right away? The idea of separating from him is extremely painful.

—Serwaa

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