My Spouse’s Friend Contemplates At Our House

In our family we are five persons that is our three children, my husband and me. In the past five years of our marriage things have note been so well to us. I recall some three years also back we spent those years in a two- bedroom with my mother-in-law and our children in this apartment.  Things were so though for us and probably it is God who rescued us and we managed until the end of it.

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By now we call still manage to rent some house apartment for ourselves without financial constrains as experience in the past. This idea of renting for three years was declined by my husband earlier. This time we had heavy and though conversation that also involve nearly the legal processes after our second child in the process he agrees to let things down and do as expect to deal with the situation on hand. On the process we took over that old apartment as he suggested for us.

My utmost value goes to me in laws for not having clutches or any dispute with them. We manage to meet and talk even if they are far from us. Some idea would have been pumped in by mother-in-law but since she had no financial command, she thought she will not suggest any big house for us rather we can make decisions on our own.

When one receives the in laws from the family they are expected to be hosted and even stay before going but this was a question that needed to be considered in the future. In so instances I got so pissed off when I see my close family member like my mother leaving because we could not hist her or have any place to keep her for a while before leaving or stay. 

From my personal intuition and perspectives, a thought they had some ideas about that they would advise but and they might have felt bad about it but they decide to zip their mouths nor direct any blame to me nor feelings.

Since I know my, mother like us she must come from time to time to greet us even now.  My husband is so much concern when my mother does not come to visit us when a give birth. This has taken me be ignorance about him since I wish I let him invite her anytime he feels that my mother should come to visit us.

From the bottom of my heart some feeling hurt because the family of my husband keeps coming to us even uninvited after they left us. There is a time when one of his brothers visited our house and occupied it for around a month without even a notice, followed by a grand mother in just week and later the workmates how stayed there for four days.

I was gifting the ability to deal with people using my strong intellectual abilities and any visitor can attest that they will often claim that I am a good woman. From my side my heart is real wounded and so much frustrated.  It’s nice to get a notice of the visitor this open prepares you mental and them it serves a way to gain the private space one needs and be just a good woman that is admired by many.

I have encountered several occasions one of the husband’s junior colleagues who bops in at anytime without even notifying you.  His behavior is so much ill and frustrating. He does not want to shower, help, makes noises in the hopes and very intrusive, sleeps on a coach for some days, tells children to unstop their works and many more that scotches more.

 I have raised my alarm to my husband about the behavior of this young guy to even stop visiting us and they fall on the deaf eyes.  I know this is the duty of a man to control his family rather he can not even him stand this guy.  I thought its is nice if I recharge my anger and confront this guy about me concern. My question stills hide hard, “Guys is a woman there one who is supposed to tell the guy he is no longer invited to this house again?”

 - Alice

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