My Marriage Is In Dilemma Because Of My Wife

We talk of the serious issues of friendship. Some time ago my wife introduced me to a man she referred to as her cousin named Clifford. I welcomed him into my life like a friend, engaging in conversations and keeping in touch after he returned to his home country.

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Time moved very fast, and then my wife proposed that we move to the country where Clifford lives by highlighting the opportunities available there if we sort it and relocate to that are.  These sounded like awesome opportunities, and I was also determined to get those privileges. It sounded appealing, and I wanted her happiness as always since she was my wife. The process started after the agreement to relocate was agreed upon. 

As a suspicious man, I never knew the reason behind this relocation. Just after nearing the completion of the process, I overheard a phone conversation between my wife and Clifford. I was very attentive to hear all they played since the call was on speaker for this trip and relocation. Among the very many things a person might expect cousins to discuss.  I was so surprised when I heard a cousin saying, "When you people move here and I visit you, we will sleep together."

I was surprised and vindicated to know what it was about. Sleep together? This did not sit well with me; above all, I hoped it was just an understatement of something innocent. However, my spouse replied, "How can we? You know my husband would be around." Clifford suggested that they can figure it out when the right time comes, and they then shifted to another topic. These statements scorched my heart in a state of confusion, leaving me unsettled by what I had heard from their conversations. 

As many primaries as those who want their family to survive the trials, they do not jump to conclusions from mere talk and superficial findings. So, I quietly halted the relocation process without my explanation to my wife even after the inquiries. 

Several months later, this topic is still lingering in my head. I was cheering on in the bedroom while my wife was at the dining table. I overheard another chill conversation where she mentioned her annual leave and expressed the inner desire to vacation in Clifford’s country. "You know I don't need a visa to travel there because of my status. I just need to buy the plane ticket, and everything is sorted out." She spoke.

At that moment, I decided to be an investigating agency on demand. I started gathering my technique for collecting, sampling, and analyzing the results. I was determined to know the true nature of her relationship with this so-called cousin. My first technique for stage-taking of gathering evidence was to monitor the WhatsApp chats with Clifford. Those techniques were sorted evidence gathered waiting for analysis. 

After looking closely and trying to connect dots in their conversations, finding evidence proved challenging since they were prone to gaps in the conversation as if some of the messages were trashed. Nevertheless, I persisted in my monitoring.

A week after the previous conversation, a cousin sent a message asking, "Are you visiting?" Looking at the messages, it felt like they were out of the context of the previous discussions. One fine morning they were exchanging pleasantries, and suddenly he was inquiring about her visit. From this I noted that there was no indication they had made a plan for her to go. Instead of relying on the text, she called him; this confirmed my suspicion that she had deleted their messages from the previous conversation they had.

At one time we had an argument; she accused me of mistrusting her due to my behaviors. I seized that moment to confront her about her secret phone calls and deleted messages with her cousin. This happened when I laid out everything that has been researched over several day and made final conclusion based on the evidence I gathered; she denied any romantic involvement with the 'cousin.'

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On the contrary, she did acknowledge that her cousin had made the "sleeping together" remarks, claiming she took it as a joke. When I showed her the evidence of chats and information gathered, she claimed she had no idea how those conversations began or why they ended as they did in the chats.

Their last chat was less than a month ago, and since then there has been no peace in our home. I am now convinced that I should make the right decision from that evidence. I am torn between two choices: should I divorce her, or should I secretly relocate to another country and start my life again without her knowledge?

- Lameck

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