My Husband Is So Much Impregnating Ladies

Throughout the couple of years we were together, there were no signs of other women in his behaviour. He swore he was single at the time of his proposal. I read his words right and they came across as sincere. I raised the question, "What if there are kids? At present, single persons often have one or two kids."

He laughed and said, "I haven't ever been married. How's that I have a child's mother?"

I was delighted whose man came without a child's mother. I had always thought that such women might be a source of constant trouble and influence on the men sometimes the anger of being deceived helps and it’s also the women who ruin any relationship the man tries to build. I was not strong enough or brave enough for that.

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Our relationship was very much a smooth ride without any bumps. We were very happy in each other’s company and our friendship was without friction. It was apparent that we were the couple of stars since there was no pressure from either of us; it just happened that we knew when the time got right.

Then came the marriage counsellor's session when William revealed something unbelievable. It was completely unexpected and I couldn’t even dream of it.

The therapist wanted to know if there were any hidden things between us, and he began saying, "You don't want to start your marriage with suppressed truths. Be clear about anything that you are hiding."

That was the moment when William with a look of guilt on his face like a criminal said, "I have a child. A girl. She's a three-year-old. I'm sorry I didn’t tell you sooner."

My heartbeat got faster. I was about to yell at him, throw insults, and ask why he had been lying for two years about something so huge. But I did not let my anger out, I just kept quiet.

There was a lot to say but I was worried that if I opened my mouth, I would only let out a flood of screams. So, I kept silent while he was asking for my forgiveness.

In the moment I finished considering all things, I faced him and told him, "You have been dishonest with me for a full period of two years. Therefore, I can't be with you any longer. No trust, no marriage. Hence, the engagement is cancelled".

Then, I make a call to my father and informed him, "My wedding with William is off. Please, return the gifts he had bought for the wedding".

Father, who had always taught me the value of truthfulness, was on my side and approved my refusal to continue with the marriage. But William thought he was entitled to absolution just because he had come clean at last. He was not ready to give up.

He would bring the entire world to me family, pastors, elders whom I respected, and people from his side I admired. And every time he would come along with a new person to assist him in making an apology.

I have still insisted on going through the past several months while he continued to apologize. He was, however, determined to keep the relationship alive. "I was afraid the mother would reject you, that is why I lied," he would explain.

After a year, I finally made up my mind to forgive him and try our relationship again. The daughter was staying with, his aunt but we agreed she would join us right after the wedding. I was fine with, this arrangement thinking that having her around would reduce the mother's influence over us.

I loved and cared for that child as if she were my own, even though I had no biological kids. The child was well-liked and even loved by my family, because she was a bright child in the midst of love.

The fact that there was no sign of the mother during the five years she stayed with us is what made me worry.

I then asked William why he was not allowing the child's mother to visit her, and he replied, "I was serious when I said she is out of the picture. She does not want anything to do with our baby. That is why she was living with my aunt in the first place."

Just like our relationship had been peaceful, our marriage was also without problems—until I realized changes. One person's name had become a regular sight on my husband's phone, ringing at strange times.

My curiosity led me to decide to dig deeper. Guess who was the person on the other end? The mother of my husband's child. Why was she coming back after so long?

I asked William, "Why is the mother of your child calling you at odd hours? Is she trying to take her child back?"

His facial expression gave me a shock. It was the same look of guilt he had when he confessed to having a child. What was going on now?

"She is again and it’s my child," he said. Once more, he had silenced me with his admission.

"What are you saying?" I shouted back.

"I’m sorry," he said. "It was an accident. Her family is pushing me to marry her before I can see the baby."

The first time he admitted it, I let it go, but this was no longer a small problem. He had a relationship with a woman he had denied was in his life. And now they were to be parents again? Should I continue to be a part of this marriage and wait for the kids that he would have with her?

I made up my mind that I was not going to be involved with him or his child anymore. He should marry the girl and they can be together as a family with their kids.

I left our house and started the divorce process. During my wait for the end of this marriage, my choice was looked down upon by some people. They said I should have stayed with William. "A good wife always supports her husband no matter the situation. Marriage is not only happy times, but also hard ones," I have heard people say.

Their opinion does not matter to me at all. Had I followed the advice of others, I would not have married him at all, and thus I would have avoided the suffering of five long years. I trusted him once, and now he has betrayed me. What would be the next thing if I allowed him to get away with it again? If it is so important to them, then those who criticize me for leaving should come and take a walk in my shoes.

- Christine

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