My Dilemma Wealthy Lover Or Steady Heart?

My friendship with Amina led me to meet Hassan about a decade ago. At that time we just savoured the talk and parted ways without even bothering to take each other’s contacts. The next time I ran into him was at the end of last year, in October. He introduced himself but still didn’t bother to ask for my number. It's only after our meeting he got my number from Amina.

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When he got me on the phone, he was direct. “Ever since I saw you with Amina, I have liked you. I want to know you well,” he said. There was something sincere about him and since I was not involved with anyone, we started talking. Before we knew it, we had decided to become a couple.

Although Hassan is a rich man, he is very generous, and he often goes out of his way to show that he cares and loves me. The only problem is that he is rarely around because of his work which demands that he goes on frequent travels. If he is not moving from one County to another in Kenya, he is in an overseas country.

This year alone, he has spent Ksh1.5 million on my cooking career; he gives me Ksh 100,000 every two weeks for my upkeep, and sometimes he even sends an extra Ksh 50,000. As soon as I was done with my training, he sent me Ksh 600,000 to buy a mixer and an oven.

He has mentioned marrying me but I have seen that he might not be there physically or emotionally. I also doubt his being faithful to me because of the signs I have seen in his house and my suspicions of him being a womanizer. He either lies or dodges when I voice any concerns.

As if that weren't enough, I started seeing a different guy in October this year. He is strictly the opposite of Hassan, that is, He is not well off and has a very standard lifestyle. He also plans to marry me and is more involved and consistent in my life. He wants us to get married by December or January.

I am in a dilemma between the two. My heart is inclined towards the new man whom I have only met last month because I think I would be a happier person with him. I realize that he probably doesn’t have a lot to offer at this moment, yet my experience with Hassan has taught me that money does not mean happiness.

Still, I have the feeling of guilt on my shoulder for making a decision that could be disappointing and hurtful to Hassan. On the contrary, I do not want him to feel that I used him after all he has been through with me and the time he has spent. I am confused and do not know how to articulate my feelings in a way that would not cause him to misunderstand me.

All I want is to make the right choice that would guarantee me peace and a bright future. What would you recommend that I do?

—Mariam

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