I Paid for His Tuition But Find His Real Love 

His wish was to go back to school for a master's degree hence, the desire for a better salary for his job was natural. Since I was a business-minded person, I had already started my own business during my national service, which had just begun. After the completion of my service, I got a job, but the salary did not thrill me even though it was considered respectable by others. I saved and invested in my business, and eventually, I quit my job to work on it full-time.

When he mentioned going back to school only for a salary increase, I proposed that he think about starting a side business as a source of extra income. He replied in a straightforward manner that not all people are cut out for business; some must work under those who are. I saw the truth in his statement and decided to drop the subject.

After two years of dating, we were considering marriage. This implied that our wedding plans would have to wait until he got his master's, which I was fine with.

I served as an angel to his tuition because he was my future, and I had faith in investing in him. I always tried to help him whenever he was short of money. I used to send him food every weekend and clean his fridge, making sure he had it all; this was all done to habituate him to studying.

It was just a couple of months after he had started his master's that charmingly; he got another job offering that was almost twice his former salary. I took it as a bagful of happiness for him. He even mentioned that the next lift would come after the degree through. To myself, I said, “Then the marriage is indeed not too far.”

Nonetheless, he drew nearer to the lady, whom he dubbed a classmate. He often spoke of her, and she was one of his partners in the group tasks. Her name was always mentioned during talks regarding his classes. Something told me that the matter was not quite right, but I opted not to confront him. I rather kept my ears open and watched how things were going.

One day, he arrived home in her car, and my informant told me that she had often visited when I was not there. I could tell because the food that I cooked for him was running out more quickly than usual. Therefore, like every woman in my position would do, I checked his phone and read the messages between them.

It became evident that they were dating. The girl even wanted him to prepare her favorite meal, which I had already made for him. When I challenged him on it, he insisted that they were only friends, but shortly afterwards, he changed his password.

One day, I was alerted by my informant that the girl was in his house. I quickly went to see her in his T-shirt while they were eating the dishes I had made. I acknowledged them and proceeded straight to the bedroom. He followed me and wanted to know why I had entered knowing he had a visitor. I answered, “Yes, you have a visitor. I am your girlfriend. Do you want me to keep away because of her?”

Noticing the conflict escalating, the lady hurriedly put on her clothes and left. I was waiting for him to apologize or to say something comforting, but he instead said, “As you can see, this woman has contributed a lot to my life. She is the one who got me this job. I cannot just eliminate her from my life, so please give me time to clear things up with her.”

I can honestly say that I had the worst possible feeling, and that was pretty much anger. My command was to go back to her and not return anymore. I was at his place to clear all that I had left there. There was no apology and no endeavor to persuade me to stay on his part. He was, in my eyes, just a man who did not want me. I did not take his call; I was remaining silent on all his texts. Later on, he asserted, “I didn’t leave you. You’re the one who walked away. Let this be on record.”

Once again, I routed my suffering into business, and was working so much that I almost completely forgot about the guy. It wasn’t easy but sooner or later I got back to normal. A few months down the line, he knocked on my door looking like a dying man. He said he had finally decided and it was me that he wanted.

But the irony is that he was the only one who thought I was completely ignorant of what was happening. That woman was a problem for him. Even though I had retreated, my aura was still there, and ultimately she made the decision to quit. The job that he credited her with having helped him get was only on a yearly basis, and once it wasn’t renewed he was left with no one to support him, which led to his downfall. That’s when he realized that I still existed.

He was very surprised that I was aware of all this. He asked, “Do you believe that the male population is extinct and you are the only man left? Even if that were the case, I would prefer to marry a vegetable rather than come back to you.”

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He attempted to communicate through common friends and even dared to approach my pastor thinking that he would mediate for him. This was a pastor whom I held in high regard, and I did not want him to get involved in my private life matters. He was talking to the pastor about our problems and even implying that I was up to no good. This was the last nail in the coffin for me.

Wherever he is now, I wish him to be still in the process of dealing with the repercussions of his bad decisions. You just don’t act this way toward someone who truly loved you.

—Martha

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